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7 Killers of Success and how they hold you back

You have the power to decide what you want out of this life and also to make it happen.  Success isn’t an impossible goal, but it is a decision that you have to make.  You will not reach your goals on accident.

It’s not an easy road, but it is possible to look past the life that you are “expected” to live.  There you will see the life that you only dream about, goals that you are scared to set, and a happiness that you are sure that you will never feel.

Perhaps it’s the perfect job.  Maybe you dream about having the ability to spend more time with your family.  OR it could be personal goals such as losing weight and living a healthier lifestyle that you desire more than anything else.

Normal, everyday, regular people can do extraordinary things.  It happens everyday.  What does that mean for the rest of us who struggle to break out of routine of our everyday lives?

Is there some unwritten rule that states that only a handful of us regular folk will break the mold and get to live a life that we design ourselves?

I am a quitter.  Once things get a little hard, I pull back to what I find comfortable and routine.  I tell myself that there is always tomorrow, and that is when great things are going to happen.

Tomorrow is always when that diet starts, when that book is going to be read, or when I am going to be more strict with my personal development routines.

We don’t have to wait till tomorrow to start making progress toward any sized goal in our lives.

There are certain things that hold us back and keep us from making progress or even getting started.  Once you identify what is holding you back, you will then be able to work around those obstacles.

Here are some of the main things that hold a lot of us back:

 
Scared of the unknown-

This one is a silent killer of dreams.  Without even realizing it, you could be at a standstill and not making progress.  Your subconscious could be scared shitless of the unknown.
Not knowing where you are headed or how you’ll get there could end up being the reason that you never start down any path at all.  Leaving you wishing things were different but never doing anything about it.

Comfort in routine-

Comfort in the routine of your life goes hand in hand with being scared of the unknown.
While fear of the unknown keeps you at a standstill, you then tell yourself that you like certain aspects of your life.
Out of fear of upsetting the comfortable balance of your life, you set your sites low and settle for less.
There is nothing comfortable about reaching for the stars and going big.  Your whole life may change as a result.  You’ll have to ask yourself: “Do you want routine?”  OR “Do you want to have no regrets?”

Fear of failure/ success-

No one likes to fail at anything.  To put your name on something and have it not work out can be embarrassing as well as detrimental to your self-confidence.
One or more failures in a row can leave you retreating back into your comfort zone to never put yourself out there again.      Continue reading

Thinking big vs being a big thinker, and How the Difference Impacts Your Results

Photo: Flickr/ Brian Hillegas

Photo: Flickr/ Brian Hillegas

Are you a big thinker or do you think big?  You may be asking yourself, “What’s the difference?”.  After you read this you will clearly see how the difference between the two impacts your everyday results.

For better or worse… I am a thinker.  The work that I do is very creative, so the never ending flow of ideas can really come in handy at times.

The truth is though, it gets exhausting hearing myself think.  There is a time and a place for big ideas.  There is also a time to buckle down and do the work.

When I set out to work on a project, thinking big picture is the first thing that I do.  A 20,000 foot view of all of the components that will make up the end result.  I think about what I am trying to accomplish and how all of the pieces will fit together in the end.

I then work backwards making notes of any problem areas that I foresee.  I keep zooming in until I finally reach a starting point.

Once the planning is in place and the wheels of a project are in motion, then it’s time to stop thinking big and do the work.  This is where I struggle.

My mind keeps racing.  I over analyze and think myself into an anxiety induced roadblock.  Progress comes to a standstill as I chase unrelated factors into a million different rabbit holes.  It’s not really problem solving if the problems that are being solved aren’t actually in the way of you completing your goal. Continue reading

8 Steps for taking Constructive Criticism like a Boss.

Criticism sounds like such a negative word.  Just the thought of it sends most of us into defensive mode quicker than anything.  However, like it or not, getting outside perspective is essential to our personal growth in life and in business.  There is a time and place for Constructive Criticism.  Below I give you 8 steps to surviving Criticism with your head up without falling into a defensive spiral.

Photo courtesy of Flickr and JoshuaDavisPhotography

Photo courtesy of Flickr and JoshuaDavisPhotography

Putting myself out there by starting this blog and my podcast was a little hard to do at times.  I still get a knot in my stomach at times just before I hit Publish on a project.

Why is this?  Mostly because it doesn’t matter how confident I am about my vision… I am only human (believe it or not),  so I still battle that fear of “What will people think?”. Continue reading